TLC’s “90 Day Fiancé” has a range of fan favorites throughout the series as they are remembered for various reasons.
Between the original show, Before The 90 Days, and Happily Ever After, there is enough 90 Days for everyone. One couple that has caught everyone’s attention is Avery and Ash during Before The 90 Days. But there is more to Avery than the show as she has a great personality and is full of life. Check out this exclusive interview I have done with Avery as we talked about her upbringing, her goals, the hardships of a long-distance relationship, the cannabis industry, and much more!
The Knockturnal: Ever since the COVID19 breakout has made its way to the United States, how have you been?
Avery Warner: As an introvert, I think this kind of situation is somewhat normal for me. I am mostly a homebody anyways, but I do feel like not having the option to go out with your friends and have fun has made things tough. I have really been trying to focus this time on building my brand of who I am and creating new business avenues with new opportunities arriving. I have been trying to stay positive. Some days are better than others.
The Knockturnal: What are some things you and your children doing to cope with the current situation?
Avery Warner: We have been taking a lot of time to go out in nature, go on lake walks, and it has allowed me more time to be present. It can be really tough working at home with a 2-year-old, but it has taught me a lot about how to manage my time better and work with my schedule.
The Knockturnal: I would like to get to know more about you. What was it like for you to grow up in Washington and what were your earliest childhood memories?
Avery Warner: I grew up in Eastern, Washington in what we call the Tri-Cities (Kennewick, Pasco, Richland). I lived in Kennewick mostly, and it was a decent upbringing. I was a little bit of a rebellious child, and things were not always easy for me growing up. I had a very strict father, and my mother suffered from her own demons. I had to learn to be independent from a very young age. With that, the learning process was I went hard very quickly, hit rock bottom very quickly, and through that developed a new zest for my own personal growth. I personally didn’t want to become a victim to my own circumstances, so most of my 20’s I learned a lot through my life experiences. I still learn every day and don’t think I’m perfect, but I look back often to where I was at, and I feel very blessed I grew so much. My earliest childhood memories were of me and my family doing a lot of camping and hunting trips. My dad (who is actually my stepdad, but raised me since I was young), he is very much into hunting and fishing. Me and my sisters were raised like boys. Got my first BB Gun when I was 6-7 years old, got a motorcycle around 5th grade, and every weekend my sister’s and I would pull really long labor-intensive days when we were not in school. He taught me great work ethic, for that I am thankful.
The Knockturnal: What were some goals that you wanted to accomplish before you decided to go to the Institute of Integrative Nutrition?
Avery Warner: I had many goals that constantly changed as my own personal growth changed and I began to get to know myself. In my 20’s, I thought that I would become a Dentist or Dental Hygienist and pursue my long term career in Dentistry. As I did more work on myself, and got to know myself better, I realized I needed to explore my own passions, and face my fears by making my dreams a reality rather than staying in my comfort zone. Its been a ride exploring my passions, and with every new opportunity, I’m learning what works for me and what doesn’t.
The Knockturnal: Before we get to 90 Day Fiancé, I notice from your introduction that you have an interest in the cannabis industry. The industry seems to be heading in a good direction of how beneficial it can be to the consumers, and how it will also be financially beneficial as well. When did you take interest in the industry, and what is your take on the current landscape of that industry?
Avery Warner: When I first moved to Seattle about 6 years ago, I was dating a guy named Jared Mirsky who owns the largest branding, marketing, and advertising agency in the world for cannabis. During that relationship, I was exposed to a lot of top people in the industry and fell in love with the love all of them had with it. I dived into it myself and began exploring more of its healing properties. Understanding what cannabis has done in my own life, I grew a strong passion for it. The landscape of the industry right now is becoming less stigmatized. I feel people are becoming more open about their usage and what it has done for them. Cannabis has a wide range of medicinal properties, and that is my main focus with this beautiful plant. I think the industry is doing a great job at this point in educating people who are more stuck in the stereotypical mindset.
The Knockturnal: I like your personality and it shows that you are real and honest from the start. Do you think that is missing a lot in today’s dating world?
Avery Warner: To be honest, I had a realization after I had my youngest daughter almost 2.5 years ago that the reason I have not been happy in any of my previous relationships was because I wasn’t being true to my self. It easy for us to enter relationships and want us to mold ourselves into who we believe our partner wants in order to gain love an approval. Unfortunately, when we are going against who we truly are on the inside we will never be fully content in that relationship. We will be happy when we get approval by our partners, but there will always be discontent. It takes a lot of self-work to identify who you really are and what you really want. Once you identify that, it makes it easier to identify if the person you are dating is what or who you really want. When I began dating Ash, from day one I laid all my junk out there to see if he wanted to take it or leave it. I think this is crucial because if a person won’t accept you, let them go, don’t change who you are to make someone else happy, that won’t create the relationship everyone strives for.
The Knockturnal: Since you and Ash are in different parts of the world, how hard was it to maintain your long-distance relationship before you two were on the show?
Avery Warner: Long distance is very tough. You learn a lot about how to communicate when you’re in a long-distance relationship. We obviously had our ups and downs, in a long-distance relationship, it’s very easy get in your own head about things because you don’t know if the person you’re talking to is who they say they are. It takes a lot of trust, vulnerability, time, and effort. It was very hard. It takes 100% commitment from both individuals.
The Knockturnal: At what point did you begin to develop feelings for Ash?
Avery Warner: Almost immediately after our first FaceTime. I found him very attractive, and I felt as though our mindsets were in the same spot. He also was unlike anyone I ever dated, and I thought he would be good for me.
The Knockturnal: When did you and Ash audition to be on the show? And how long did it take for TLC to get back to the both of you to tell you two that the both of you will be on the show?
Avery Warner: I was the one who reached out to be on the show. Once I found out that they were interested, I asked Ash about it. He seemed very disinterested and I was ok with that. The network kept reaching out, and Ash had come around to saying yes even after I had told TLC no, and that we both were not interested. We decided to do it, thought it would be a fun adventurous way to meet, and it didn’t take long after our skype calls (maybe a couple weeks) to be approved to be on the show.
The Knockturnal: Since you two have met, were there any good moments that happened that were not shown on 90 Day Fiancé that you would like to share?
Avery Warner: We only had two days off during the entire 3 weeks of filming. On one of our days off we took a trip to Cape tribulation in the middle of the jungle and deserted beaches. It was absolutely one of the most memorable experiences I had every had. It was amazing and I will never forget experiencing that with him.
The Knockturnal: Building trust in a relationship takes a long process. I know the fact that Ash is a Relationship Coach and had a lot of clients raised some eyebrows. What advice can you give to anyone that is in a similar situation as yours?
Avery Warner: Trust is key, and openness and honesty is a must. Actions speak louder than words, so if the words are not aligning with actions then I would be concerned, but if they are open, communicative, and their actions prove to you their stance, then just trust that.
The Knockturnal: Who is your favorite couple to watch on the show?
Avery Warner: I love Big Ed. He is just a character and fun to watch on TV. He just has a personality that you just want to tune into.
The Knockturnal: If TLC gave you the opportunity for you and Ash to be on Pillow Talk, would you two do it?
Avery Warner: I can’t comment on that. BUT, Pillow Talk would be fun!
The Knockturnal: What are some of your future projects that you would like your fans to know about that you have not announced yet?
Avery Warner: I have a lot of things cooking behind the scenes, but it’s only the foundation at this time. So I just have to say stay tuned. I don’t want to give anything away at this time.
Avery can be found on Instagram @averydopecook